10: Rembo no michi omoi yoru kokoro nashi - There is no mind of thinking about a love life
In Buddhism there are five different kinds of desires based on Shiki,
Sho, Ko, Mi, Shoku. These are desire for money, lust, appetite, desire
for fame, desire for sleep. One of these, romance is very hard to avoid.
According to Buddhism's Hachi Kai: At least for one day a week we really
should train in Buddhism without all this romance between men and women.
Leave love affairs behind. Don't get close to other women except
your own wife.
|| Don't look at the opposite sex in a sexual way.
So how can we overcome this?
According to Andre Maurois The Art of Living: He says, "What
is the the real foundation of home life? It is a in a 'married couple',
husband and wife. They are the centre of home life". At first
they are connected with each other as a just as man and woman, but
this relationship continues into married friendship as it is added
to their relationship. So there is a real meaning to a marriage
with life in it.
A husband and wife are a real
couple. This was also the love of Eros. From these kinds of love there is
a change to friendship.
There is the deepest connection in a man and a woman when it changes
from affection to friendship that is the centre of home-life.
Therefore a husband understands about women through his wife. A wife understands
about a men through her husband. There the deepest of human understanding
has been made as is easily explainable. But this explains the process
of public relationship to private relationship, also from affection to
So what is true love? It is not what is called the love between man and
a woman. That kind of love is a desire.
True love is based upon respect, consideration, an understanding and
strong fellowship. It's a situation of cally relatiing something a friendship
or, just an ordinaronship.
have a bigger world (Nyorat) we realise that its about more than
just personal relationships. When we have more than a personal relationship
we realise the unselfishness of things and the love changes towards
friendship, friends, fellowships. Based on this we can establish
ourselves to the the world of true love. Musashi had cut himself
off from what was a real romance. A thing he found very hard to
Using the expression
of Andre Maurois, "Affection of the same blood", men's
and women's relationships are more than family relationship.
It means that coming from personal to ordinary affection, from the affection
of friendship we can realise great true love.
There is a mind of thinking of romance that sets us up for great love
11: Mono goto ni suki konomu koto nashi - One should not have likes or dislike for things.
Lets say that there are so
many things that you are able to like. On the other hand there are also
dislikes. They are all up to you but there should be no confusion. Don't
be confused by your own thoughts. Just leave tenacious feelings behind.
Just leave intellectual thoughts, logical thoughts. forget the reality
of things and don't be objectionable.
It means that we should go
for the impartial world. Just look at things the way they are and accept
them with appreciation.